I have completed the STEP parenting class and would highly recommend it. Their focus was right on and I discovered something I had not realised before. Beliefs control Thoughts, and Thoughts control Emotions. I guess for most of my life I have been that bad kid getting what she wanted through bad behavior. Once I became an adult it only worked to alienate people from or make me work 1000 times harder to get something accomplished. Like when I was going to Chipola Junior College, in Marianna Fl, I took a keyboarding class as a prerequisite to all computer classes. I took it during the summer. The instructor gave us a disk of typing games and told us to work on one game. During this I managed to get very good at the game and went looking through the disk for a more challenging game. I found one I thought looked cool and decided to give it a try unaware this would anger that instructor. The game started and it had something the first one did not. SOUND! I was scolded and told to practice on the game she recommended and looking back I think the sound was what annoyed her and why she wanted us on that specific game. I reverted back to the original game and that's the game we used for the entire class. Come day of finals we were given a disk with the test on it and told we got 2 chances to make the grade. She would take the higher score of the 2. Unaware that this instructor had it in for me I began taking the test. We were told not to take the second game till she verified the first so when I got finished I called her over to check. She said that it would be a D but I already knew according to the syllabus it should have been a B which I informed her of. She told be that she was grading me on the advance scale and that It was a D and for me to take the test again to see what I get next time. This infuriated and I was in shock and instantly so upset that I knew my frame of mind was so that I would be unable to do any better on the next one and began to argue her reasoning behind her trying to grade me on the advanced scale. Her response was, that she was the Instructor and could do as she pleased. Wow was my response and I was close to tears as my emotions often get the best of me. I began to gather my things and popped the test disk out of the computer feeling at this point it was best to have it in my possession because this was not over and I headed out the door, across campus to the presidents office. I walked in and asked him if the disk was considered my property since I did in fact pay 5 dollars for computer supplies when I signed up and he stated it was. I wanted to make sure I had not just committed a theft and began to explain the situation to him. Unaware that there was a chain of command he sent me to her supervisor and when I did not get any results I was sent to the Dean of student services Al James. I spent more time arguing my point with Mr. James he seems to be the only one I remember by name. ... NOTE( I am not finished with this story and will be adding more to it soon) Be Patient please
1971-1972, I was molested for the first time by Herbert Holcomb Swisher 11, Heir to Swisher Sweet Cigars. This would last till I was 15 and during this time I experienced things that will shock the readers of this blog.
1976 in just third grade, (hoke) would take a puppy I had named brownie to my school, then come to me to tell me what he had done. He then told me that if anyone asked if that was my dog that he would kill me if I told them it was. This dog found me the next day and followed me everywhere. Several days of my denying the dog, I am told by my teacher after the dog walked into the open door during class and walked right up to me to take it to the office and tell them that this strange dog is following me everywhere. I leave the class, crying begging the dog to run away as I head to the office to do as I was told. I was sent back to class and a day or so later when I was in the lunch room, my puppy comes in right up to me. Everyone freaked and the school custodian Roosevelt Triplet came in with a rope and put it around the dogs neck and carried my puppy out the door swinging from the end of the rope. The dog had mange, and later when I would ask him what he done with the dog, he told me he killed it. He would become the target of my rage for in my youth he had become the enemy. Later I would attack this man who would just laugh as I cussed him, kicked him, pulled his hair, called him names as he carries me back to school over his shoulder after chasing me as I ran from a teacher and insisted I was going home. Mr Triplet was a pastor who ran a small church in Wakulla County, Fl
1985 - My brother took myself and my sister to the police station to turn (Hoke) in for his crimes against us. Our story would be the first story of it's kind to be posted in the small town news paper in Wakulla County Florida.
1989 - Feb 25th I married Samuel Doyle Toole, a man who was 9 years older than me and who once faced a 60 year prison sentence. Once his sentence was run current he walked out of prison after serving 7 years day for day of his 60 year sentence. He had a good heart, was great to his children. When we started having children, I had to stop him from bringing homeless people home for dinner. He would then come home, ask me to make a doggy bag and take food back out to them.
1991 Aug first daughter was born.
1992 Aug, second daughter was born.
1995 Feb, husband has accident that leaves him with TBI.. He never recovered and spent the remainder of his life in a health care facility.
1995 June, third daughter was born.
* Worked with M&M Transit transporting incompasitated passangers from nursing homes, to doctors appointments and home from hospitals after an extended stay. I ran a stretcher van, equipted to haul 2 stretchers side by side in the back. This job had me going in and out of nursing homes in several counties during a time when I needed to find one to place my husband into. The hospital tried to dump him in every slum possible but I managed to stand my ground and eventually had him placed at River Chase Care Center. It would later be told to my children by my sister that I put him in a slum. I knew it was one of the nicest places I went into and after checking the homes ratings still feel that even though a simple decision of where I placed my husband was used to try to turn my kids against me, I stand covicted that he was in a place where his daily needs were being met. It was not a state run home.
1995 November, 11 I was arrested for battery for hitting a man with a boat oar, who jumped my fence and frightened my children. My mistake was being honest with the officer when asked who hit first. I told him I did but was so upset at the time did not get time to explain the man jumped the fence, dropped his cup of booze in my yard and was running at me when I swung on him. After 55 days in jail I finally got a bond hearing and was offered a plea to walk that day. I took a plea because with a new baby at home and a husband in coma this case was the least important thing on my agenda.
2000 June became a widow, when husband passed from pneumonia from complications of long term TBI.
2001 Jan, 6th, completed one year of house arrest and completed the terms of my probation successfully.
2001 April I packed up the kids and the cats and moved to Tampa Bay.
2003 April, the State of Florida steals my children from school during a hard time when they should have helped me, their way was to take the only reasons I had to live for.
Saturday, September 29, 2007
From the Bottom Up
A non profit org for single families. Being able to provide the bare necessities to people in need would enable them to use their money to better themselves. Shelter, Food, Medical. The idea is to create a voucher program for families to use in their local areas. When thinking this plan back up many years ago the idea of getting big companies to sponsor this idea by proving vouchers in many stores for their products. The vouchers would then be redeemed by the head of family as the items were needed in the home. Items like baby diapers, clothing and personal hygiene for both adults and children, and even toys at Christmas time. These vouchers would be used for these specific items and families needing medical items such as fever reducers, diaper creams and cough medicines could be purchased right in the stores. This would eliminate the liability involved with over the counter medicines and being obtained by the family outside of a retail establishment. My idea will eliminate items going bad in storage and people in need don't feel like second hand citizens eating stale cereal outdated products that many companies feed them today.
These programs in place are wonderful. I would rather see items going to charity then thrown away. But we need to do more.
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Child abuse victim at local hospital, as reported by bay 9 news
Friday, September 28, 2007
PINELLAS PARK (Bay News 9) -- A boy involved in what Pinellas Park police are calling the worst case of child abuse they've seen is safe at a local hospital.His mother and the man they were living with are in jail.Edwin Cook called 911 after he noticed something wasn't right with the child in the lobby of the Freedom Village Housing complex."It wasn't just gross negligence. It was gross abuse," Cook said. "He was bleeding on his right temple, yet he was skinned on his left calf going down and there's no way you can fall and hit right temple and left calve.""I didn't call for publicity, I called for the help of the child," Cook said. "You know we have to save the children."The boy lived in Freedom Village with his mother Drenda Patrick, 43, who is accused of child neglect and Reginald Carr, 42, who is accused of child abuse.When police entered the apartment, they found the boy being kept like a prisoner in horrific conditions."When we found the child he was in a room and in the room was linoleum floor only and a plastic bucket only for him to go to the bathroom in," said Capt. Michael Haworth, Pinellas Park Police. "There was no furniture, no clothing."Police say the 12-year old had evidence of old injuries too."He had dried blood on his body, a cracked skull, his nose had been broken. His lips had been blooded," Haworth said. The boy wasn't attending school. Police say his mother took him out last school year. He told police he was only allowed to read the bible.Police say he and his mother moved to Pinellas Park less than a year ago from Alabama.Police said his mother met Carr on a religious website. Patrick and Carr appeared before a judge Friday afternoon.Carr, who is legally blind is the one police say committed the abuse with his fists, cords and rods.
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